Although I believe with my whole heart that kindness is the currency of the next generations, it isn't often understood that the healthiest people among us aren't always "just kind." The healthiest among us understand where the edges are in the relationships that mean the most-and you can't often find these edges until you push up against them. Many of us are on the heels of a generation that suggested we should demand respect before we ever considered the importance of giving fellow humans the benefit of the doubt. Or that respect had to be earned. That behaviorism was predicated on not tolerating bullshit first; then, and only then, could you be kind.